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I was also pleased that we had a similar religious upbringing.I grew up going to a Methodist church, and I've always had a strong Christian faith.Chris's father was a Southern Baptist minister who preached fire and brimstone, and Chris was taught that being gay was the ultimate sin — an absolute sentence to hell. After we watched the movie "Romancing the Stone," Chris said, "I think I could marry you." I was speechless, wondering if I was living in a romance novel.Then, after he kissed me good-night, he shocked me again, saying, "No matter what you hear, I'm not gay." In fact, I had heard other students say that everyone in his fraternity was gay.When I saw the movie, I started to cry as I watched Ennis, the young cowboy played by Heath Ledger, wed his sweetheart even though he'd been involved with another man. D., estimated that between 1.5 million and 2.9 million American women who have ever been married had a husband who had had sex with another man.That means there are a large number of women who have no idea what their husband does in secret.
While the media focuses on the men, I watch their wives standing next to them and wonder about the suffering, lies, emotional confusion and rage that they may be living through. There are so many obvious questions for a wife like me: Didn't I realize he was gay? And if I had suspicions, why didn't I confront him earlier or divorce him?"I haven't done anything wrong." Instead of arguing about how I felt or figuring out how I wanted to handle the larger issue, I focused on what I needed at that moment — to take medicine and get healthy — much as I had throughout our rocky marriage.It took a few more days of wrenching confrontation for our marriage to disintegrate.But I also didn't believe that a gay man would ever be attracted to a straight woman, and I was naive — too naive to see why a homosexual man would marry and spend years lying to his wife, his friends, his family and himself.The beginning I was a 19-year-old college freshman in Kentucky when I met Chris.