I know people in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond who still haven't figured out how to create an intimate connection with another human being. Smart people feel that they're entitled to love because of their achievements.It's because they've been going at it the wrong way. For most of their lives, smart people inhabit a seemingly-meritocratic universe: If they work hard, they get good results (or, in the case of really smart folks, even if they don't work hard, they still get good results).They found men were attracted to such women at a distance, yet found them less attractive, both physically and emotionally, when they were in closer contact.
Lora Park, a social psychologist at the University of Buffalo, and her colleagues Ariana Young and Paul Eastwick, studied the reactions of men to women they experienced as smarter than them and found an interesting phenomenon.After all, it’s a fact that many smart, highly educated professional women struggle to get a date.It appears that men prefer dating women who aren’t as smart, who don’t have admirable careers and can’t be said to be their “equal.”Science supports this view.From these studies the conclusion is that men are genuinely attracted to women who appear smarter or more competent at intellectual tasks than they are, but when push comes to shove, when faced with such a woman, they’d rather not go out with her.Psychology Today reports on a third set of experiments which revealed much the same data, but also produced a possible explanation for why men like smart women, but hesitate to date them.“In those tests, male participants were asked to evaluate their sense of masculinity in the situations in which they had been outsmarted or outperformed in front of a woman who might have been a potential romantic interest.”The scientists came to a disturbing conclusion. More people are reading Ideapod than ever before, but advertising revenues across the media landscape are falling fast.